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Milo Ventimiglia’s bad-boy days are over. When Gilmore Girls returned last year for a four-episode Netflix run, viewers noticed that the 39-year-old actor’s rough-and-tough Jess Mariano had suddenly become too good a man for the show’s younger protagonist. And on This Is Us—the family weeper (and runaway hit) that followed soon after—Ventimiglia kills viewers with kindness as the Pearson clan’s patriarch, Jack. Is it true what they say, that age softens your edges?

“Look, I’ve played a superhero,” the youthful-as-ever Orange County native says in reference to his days on Heroes. “But I think Jack Pearson is actually the most realistic hero possible. He’s a father who has influence over his children, who has impact on his family, who can be a good husband if he really, truly tries. I think that just being a good man is something we all can strive for and achieve.”

“But at the same time,” he advises sternly, “don’t let anyone walk all over you. People should not mistake kindness for weakness. If you approach someone with goodness, or if someone’s approaching you with goodness, you’re gonna tenfold be better to them. But if they’re bad to you, you can’t allow that. So treat me good, I’ll treat you better. Treat me bad, I’ll treat you worse.”